Chapter 20
A BOY LEARNS THE MEANING OF BROTHERHOOD
W. Carl Ketcherside
I was not quite nine years old when I ran into my first real
problem about brotherhood. And it all came about because of a
gallon of coal oil-kerosene it is called in these days. If you
have time, and are not too busy to listen, I would like to tell
you about it.
At the time we lived in a little tworoom miner's shack
with a summer kitchen out back. It was typical of the houses
in the sprawling village dominated by the mine tipple and the
huge chat dump, that tailing pile left after the rock had been
ground at the crushing mill and the ore extracted. There were
three younger children besides me, and another on the way. Papa
worked a thousand feet underground. Every day he went down on
the cage, wearing his carbide lamp on his cap so he could see
where to use his miner's pick to get to the vein of ore. Sometimes
he worked the day shift, and at other times the evening or night
shift. There was little time indeed to do things as a family
since the work underground was ten hours per day and six days
per week.
We children were thrust upon our own resources, and since the
one next to me was a boy, we spent a good deal of time dreaming
up games to play. When we got tired of playing we could always
relieve the tedium and tension by fighting. Nothing else was
quite as interesting as a good fight, and it was all the more
fascinating because it was forbidden.
On the day I am going to tell about, Mama called me to the house
and told me to take the coal oil can and go to the company store
and get a gallon of coal oil with which to fill the lamps. She
gave me a nickel with which to pay for it and cautioned me not
to lose it. She also told me to take my brother along. I protested
because he had a stone bruise on his heel at the time and walked
on his toes on that foot because he could not bear to touch his
heel to the ground. I complained that he would slow my progress
and that he was too young to go to the store anyhow, seeing he
had just turned seven. My arguments did not prevail and I took
him along reluctantly, muttering to myself and threatening him
as we went.
When we arrived at the store there were five or six men, miners
from another shift, sitting on the front porch, mostly talking
and whittling, and chewing Star cutplug tobacco. Miners
who were not at work gathered here every day. I recognize one
of them. It was Cottoneye Joe. I didn't know if he had
another name. Miners were a rough lot and they nicknamed everyone
without thought of compassion or feelings. Most of them didn't
mind, I guess. Mr. Gorman, who had walked with a limp all his
life, was always called "Crip," and Mr. Jameson, who
had his back broken when a blast went off prematurely on a slope
where they were tamping powder in a drillhole, was called
"Humpy" because he walked all bent over and couldn't
straighten up.
One of Cottoneye Joe's eyes was covered with a milky film
and was sightless. As one miner said, "School was dismissed
in his right eye because there was no pupil." But he was
also called Cottoneye to distinguish him from Deaf and Dumb
Joe who lived down by the creek with his mother and scared all
of us kids out of our hides because he made such funny faces and
sounds trying to tell something.
Cottoneye Joe was the village troublemaker. Everyone
knew that he kept things all stirred up. As we walked by him
into the store he grabbed me by the ankle and growled like a dog.
I jumped like I was shot and stubbed my big toe against the door
jamb. I saw stars. But I went on in and put my nickel on the
counter, and Mr. Watson took it and filled the can with oil and
put a potato on the spout to keep me from sloshing it out as I
walked.
When my brother and I went back outside, Cottoneye Joe
motioned to us and said, "Come here, you boys!" We
walked over to where the men were sitting while dangling their
feet off the porch.
Addressing himself to me, Cottoneye Joe asked, "Are
you boys brothers?"
"Yes, sir," I said, "he's my brother and I'm his
brother"
"Are you sure?" he asked.
"Sure, I'm sure, Mr. Cottoneye. We really are brothers."
"Well, I don't believe it," he replied. "You
can't be. He's got brown eyes and yours are blue. How can you
be brothers and have different colored eyes?"
"Oh, that doesn't count," I replied. "According
to that your eyes wouldn't even be brothers, 'cause one of 'em
is white and the other is kind of greenish."
When I said that the rest of the men slapped their legs, threw
their heads back and started to laugh, so I moved over to one
side. You quickly learned to do that when men were chewing tobacco
and started to laugh and splutter. You got out of the direct
line of fire.
Some of the men could put their fingers to their lips and make
a "V" and spit through their front teeth and hit a tomcat's
eye across a sixteenfoot room. They called that expectorating
because they said when they did it you could expect the stream
to go where you aimed. But when they laughed and spit, you didn't
know what to expect. That's why I got out from in front of them.
When I said what I did about Mr. Cottoneye's eyes not being
brothers, everybody but him laughed and took on a lot. One of
them said, "That boy's smart enough he's liable to turn into
a preacher if someone don't rescue him."
But Cottoneye said, kind of grumpylike, "He's
a smartaleck, and he'll be lucky if he keeps out of the
pen until he's twentyone."
Then he turned to me again and said, "Don't be too sure
that kid there is your brother. Does he like the same things
you like to eat?"
"Sure, he does," I said. "We only have about
one thing at a meal and everybody likes it, except he doesn't
like ketchup on his butterbeans and I do."
"See, what did I tell you? You like ketchup on your butterbeans
and he doesn't. I'll bet he's not your brother at all. Somebody
has just pulled the wool over your eyes."
I turned away. I didn't want to be sassy with older folks.
It wasn't right to stand up and argue with them in public in front
of other people. A boy of nine ought to be polite at all times
around grown folks, else they would think he had no raising by
his Papa and Mama.
But I didn't realize how much I had taken to heart what was said
until evening. I was sitting by myself on the back steps and
it was kind of dusky graylike all over. The evening star
was shining, and the crickets were chirping, while a dryweather
fly was making that whirring sound that always adds to lonesome
feelings. Otherwise, it was all still and quiet, the kind of
time when you think deep thoughts away down inside yourself, and
wish that you were bigger and knew more things for sure like grownup
folks do. It is a pretty ghostly time to be by yourself.
I began to wonder if I really did belong to Papa and Mama.
Maybe they had just found me and took me in out of pity. Maybe
I was left in a basket on the porch by the front door and I might
never know my real folks. Maybe I was a wood's colt. I didn't
really know what a wood's colt was, but I knew their mothers had
them and no one knew who their fathers were. When folks talked
about them they generally spoke real low. Men talked about 'em
with a hand in front of their mouths, and women put their fans
up and whispered behind them. If I was one, or an orphan either,
chances are nobody would ever tell me the truth. Maybe Cottoneye
Joe knew something about me that I didn't know, else why would
he have brought up about us being brothers? If that kid had stayed
home and not gone limping along the road beside me, all this wouldn't
have come up. I was happy before and now I wasn't and it was
all his fault. He was so sure of everything and I couldn't be
at my age. I promised myself I would provoke a fight with him
tomorrow and pay him back.
When Mama called and said it was time to go to bed, I didn't
want to go. I was angry and frustrated and I didn't know why.
I thought I'd stay awake in bed and think about things some more.
But the smell of the fresh straw in the strawtick, coupled
with the cool breeze blowing through the window and rustling the
curtains, making them stand straight out, was too much for me.
The screechowl that lived under the eaves of the barn flew
to the maple tree just outside the window and let out a noise
that would make goosepimples rise on you arms. But I just
heard him once and then I was gone.
"I Kicked Him"
When I awakened the next morning, the one I had always thought
was my brother, but about whom I was not so sure now, was still
sleeping, kind of wadded up like in bed. I kicked him a good
one before I got out of bed and then jumped out, grabbed my clothes
and ran. All morning I looked for a chance to hurt him and get
back at him without really knowing why. I caught him once sitting
in the swing under the cherry tree. He was eating a ripe tomato
out of the garden, holding it in his right hand and trickling
salt into it out of his left hand each time he took a bite. I
picked up a beanpole to try and knock it out of his hand
into the dirt, but he stood up and threw it smack into my face,
getting seeds all over my hickory blouse and salt in my eye.
He ran for the house and I was so blinded I could not chase him.
Each day I became more upset and mean. Mama called me in one
afternoon and asked me what had come over me or gotten into me.
All I could do was sulk and look at her. I could not tell her
that I was worried that I was not her boy and didn't know if I
even rightly belonged there. I put my face in my hands and cried
so hard that I shook all over. Mama was scared and tried to tell
me everything would be all right. But it wasn't, and it got worse.
I thought I might be dying, and I hoped that I would. I wanted
to die.
Then one day I heard Mama say to Papa, "You're going to
have to talk with him. He keeps telling his brother he hates
him and doesn't want to see him any more. I am afraid if he keeps
on he will do something to himself."
It was the next afternoon when Papa got off early from the day
shift that he said to me, "Son, let's you and I take a little
walk down by the creek." We started down the road that led
to Deaf and Dumb Joe's house, but we turned off on a path the
cows had made when they came in off the open range in the evening.
And we walked down to the overhang, the flat rock which extended
out over the creek at the pawpaw thicket. We sat down together,
just the two of us.
It was the first time Papa had ever talked to me by myself like
one man talks to another man. He began by saying, "Son,
I have been wanting to talk to you for a long time. Mama is worried
about you and the way you have been treating the other children.
You've changed, and we don't know why."
I was trying not to cry because I knew men did not bawl when
they were talking. Finally, I said, "I just don't know who
I am. I'm not sure about things, not even anything. I'm not
sure I even belong in our family."
For a moment Papa did not say anything. I was afraid he would
laugh, but he didn't. He picked up a little rock and tossed it
up and caught it. I saw the callouses on his hand which was so
rough from using the pick and shovel underground. He started
talking very slowly and softly.
"When I met your mother and asked her to marry me in spite
of the fact that I was only a poor miner, I thought the time might
come when I could have a boy like you. That is why, after we
had been married a few months, I was glad that she told me we
were going to have a baby. When the time came, Grandma came to
the house to help the doctor, and it was she who brought you in,
all red and wrinkled, and I saw you for the first time. You were
ours, the first one resulting from our love."
I was crying now, but Papa didn't mention it. He went on. "Later
on, your brother came, and then the girls, and now Mama is going
to have another baby. I want you to be good to Mama and help
her and not worry her. You see, we love all of you alike. All
of us belong to one another. But Mama had a real hard time when
you were born because you were the first. She almost gave her
life for you. And now, if your father loves you all so much,
you ought to love one another."
We sat a little while after that, neither of us saying anything.
I knew that Papa was waiting for me to break the silence. I
picked up a little stick and raked a large ant off my shoe. Then
I said, "I will love my brothers and sisters, and I'll tell
them so. I'm not worried now and I'm not afraid. It was being
afraid that caused me not to love them."
A Beautiful World
We got up and started toward home. I noticed things that I had
not seen before. The clumps of wild violets were richer purple.
The wing feathers of a jaybird were bluer than I remembered.
Something was gone from inside me, something that had felt like
a knot in my chest. It was a beautiful world and it was wonderful
to be a boy, alive and filled with hope. The terrible thing which
had been gnawing at my insides wasn't there anymore.
When dusk came and we had to go to bed, I took my things off
and hung them on the brass knob on my side of the foot of the
iron bedstead. My brother hung his things on the knob on his
side. We crawled into bed and wriggled around until each of us
had a place hollowed out in the straw tick to suit us. It was
dark and kind of ghostly quiet. I could hear the swish of the
owl's wings as he swooped by and then I heard a mouse squeak when
he pounced upon it. The faint bark of Deaf and Dumb Joe's possum
hound was carried on the night breeze.
I spoke to my brother lying beside me. "I'm not going to
hate you anymore. I'm not going to fight you and I'm not even
going to quarrel with you."
A long time went by. Maybe it seemed like it was longer than
it was, but I was gripped by fear that he might ignore me. Then
came the one word, "Why?"
"Today Papa and I had a talk, just the two of us."
I said it rather proudly. "He told me that brothers ought
to love one another because their father loves them all. When
they hate one another and will not work together it only messes
everything up and breaks the hearts of their father and mother."
"Yeah, but you don't want to do things like I want to do
'em. What about that?"
"That's easy. You do 'em like you want to unless Papa tells
you not to, and I'll do 'em the way I want to unless he tells
me not to. We'll let Papa be the judge, and I won't judge you
and don't you judge me. Maybe both ways are all right, yours
and mine, as long as Papa and Mama love us both."
"Are you not going to throw clods at me anymore when I don't
hoe the beans like you want me to? What about that?"
"Do you throw clods at people you really love? No, you
don't. I won't even hit you if you don't help get the potato
bugs off the vines. From now on, I am not afraid or worried and
I just don't have to hit anyone who doesn't do things like I do.
I'll just let you be you, and I'll be me, and we'll belong to
each other because Papa and Mama loved us and wanted us. Is it
a deal?"
"It's a deal!"
"Let's shake on it." Our two hands met in the darkness.
I took the hand of my brother in my hand and we shook on it.
And inner peace brought sleep, a calm and undisturbed repose.
It was years later that I learned that what we had done was to
make a covenant, a childlike covenant to receive one another
as we had been received, in love. It was then the words came
back to me, spoken when disciples were jealous of one another
and seeking special favor and recognition, and a little child
was set in their midst. "Except you repent and become as
a little child, you cannot enter the kingdom of heaven."
And when I think of that I still reach out my hand, even though
it is in the dark, groping for the hand of my brother and ready
to say, "It's a deal, I love you!" You see, I'm not
afraid anymore!
(Delivered at the Tulsa Unity Forum, July 57, 1973. Copied
from The Christian Appeal, Vol. 39, No. 8; Feb. 1991)
 
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